This event is exclusive to Friends of Tortoise
This is a live studio recording.
This is an in-person only event. Non-member tickets are available on design my night.
An evening of conversation, ideas and entertainment, new and exclusively for Tortoise members.
The ways we find love have changed, and so have the types of love we look for. Do the stories we tell about love create an impossible ideal to live up to – and if they don’t, what kind of relationships could work better? In short, does modern love fit modern life?
Tortoise Lates is a live studio recording. Doors open at 6pm for a 6.15pm start. If you arrive late, we will show you to your seat during the first interval.
Part one: Do we expect too much from love?
When it comes to true love, romantic comedies teach us to reach for the stars, to find the partner of our dreams, and settle for nothing less. But here’s the thing, as much as we’re encouraged to practice self-care and pursue our happiness, relationships aren’t always picture-perfect. Compromise is inevitable, and the question arises: are our expectations of love and our partners too high?
The younger generation seems to be on to something, with ideas like polyamory and ethical non-monogamy gaining traction. Perhaps it’s time we all took a step back and questioned what romantic relationships mean to us: is it really necessary to conform to societal norms? Should we explore alternative ways of experiencing love – or should we celebrate the joy, drama and frustrations that are part of the deal in long term relationships? There’s no easy answer.
Part two: The Tortoise Interview with Sarah Ferguson, Duchess of York
From bodice rippers to erotic blockbusters, the romance genre is big business – accounting for a quarter of the total fiction market.
But what does the modern romance novel look like, and why are they so popular? Does romantic fiction influence our own expectations of love and relationships, or is it harmless escapism? In her latest book, ‘A Most Intriguing Lady’ for the legendary and prolific romantic publisher Mills & Boon, Sarah Ferguson, Duchess of York tells a fictional story inspired by one of her ancestors, Lady Mary Montagu Douglas Scott. Join us for a special Tortoise Interview where pulses race and hearts skip, as we explore, celebrate and potentially swoon over stories of love and romance.
editor and invited experts
Co-host Two Twos podcast; filmmaker
Co-host, Two Twos podcast; founder, Black LGBTQIA+ Therapy Fund
Duchess of York