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Sweet Bobby | How well do you know the person you love?

Episode 5: (In)justice
Sweet Bobby

Episode 5: (In)justice

Episode 5: (In)justice

After the confession, Kirat goes to the police. But their reaction to her case isn’t what she’s expecting. Plus: Alexi tries a new approach with the catfisher


Alexi Mostrous: Okay, wish me luck. 

Gary Marshall: Good luck. 

Alexi Mostrous: Alright. I’m going up to Simran’s house now… I’m a couple of doors away. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: A few days after episode three of this podcast goes out, I drive to west London one Monday morning to try and talk to Simran in person. 

Alexi Mostrous: Okay, we’re at the door and I’m going to ring the bell. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: By now, quite a few people have heard the show, and Simran’s name… it’s out in public.

And I’m thinking – maybe that changes her calculations. Maybe now Simran has more incentive to speak to me. 

But still, I recognise it’s a long shot. 

So as a back-up plan I’ve written her a letter explaining why I think it’s important we hear from her. 

Alexi Mostrous: I think there’s someone at the window. He’s probably seen the microphone though. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: A man, who I think is Simran’s dad, peers out from behind a curtain but just as quickly, disappears.

And then I hear a female voice. 

Alexi Mostrous: Oh, hello?

Female voice: Hello?

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: They have one of those video doorbells. And the voice… it sounds familiar. 

Alexi Mostrous: Yes, I’m sorry to disturb you. My name is Alexi Mostrous from Tortoise Media, and I wondered if I could speak to Simran Bhogal.

Female voice: Oh, she’s not here at the moment.

Alexi Mostrous: She’s not here? Do you know when she’ll be back?

Female voice: Um, no, unfortunately not. 

Alexi Mostrous: Um, okay, fantastic. Thank you very much. I’m going to drop off a letter if that’s okay. And it would be great if you could, um, ask her to read it. Okay. 

Female voice: Okay. Thanks. 

Alexi Mostrous: Thank you very much. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: I’m pretty sure that’s Simran on the intercom – pretending not to be at home. 

Alexi Mostrous: I’m putting the letter in the letter box. I think that was Simran you know, I think that that was a really, uh… hold on it won’t go through. There you go. Right. Letter dropped off. Okay. We have to go. Well, that’s all we can do.

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: As I walk away from the house – I feel deflated. 

All I’ve heard from Simran so far is the short legal statement you’ve heard at the end of each episode. Not exactly insightful. 

And I have to face facts: my chances of speaking to her aren’t looking good. 

Alexi Mostrous: ​​I mean, she sounded quite calm speaking through the doorbell. So if it was Simran, she didn’t seem particularly spooked or outraged that we’d come up to her door. Cool as a cucumber. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: If my aim has shifted in these later episodes – away from just reporting this story to helping hold Simran accountable for what she did to Kirat – then I wasn’t getting very far. 

But then again, I’m just a journalist. 

And I was thinking… Simran confessed to the catfish more than three years ago. 

And back then, Kirat spoke to someone else. An authority far better placed than me to hold Simran to account.  

The police received evidence of Simran’s deception in 2018. So I wanted to know: what have they done since? 

And what are they doing now to help bring Kirat some justice? 

Alexi Mostrous: And it doesn’t seem fair to me. Maybe speaking on a personal level rather than the legal level, what do you think? 

Charlotte Proudman: Well, I think she’s been let down enormously by the authorities. And I think they should have rigorously scrutinised and looked at whether there’s an angle here to prosecute the case. I mean, it just doesn’t seem fair that Kirat is left in this position of devastation, her whole world upside down, years of her life taken away from her. And meanwhile, her perpetrator is able to continue living her life and, and, and get on with it as normal.

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: I’m Alexi Mostrous, and from Tortoise Media, you’re listening to Sweet Bobby. 

Episode 5: (In)justice.


When Kirat learned that Simran had been “Bobby” all along – that she had been scammed by her cousin for so many years, tricked into an online relationship – well, she didn’t hang about.

Kirat went straight to the police station that evening. In London. Despite Simran’s parents asking her not to go. 

And Kirat didn’t just go to the police because she was angry and upset (although she was both of those things). She’d been told to go. By a police officer. 

You see, the real Bobby – who, if you remember, lived in Brighton – had reported Simran to his local police station as soon as he found out that she was behind it all. 

But Brighton police, they told Bobby that since Simran lived in London, that’s where the case needed to be filed. As far as Brighton was concerned, this wasn’t a matter for them. 

And a Brighton police officer also told Kirat this. He phoned her just after he spoke to Bobby. 

And this police officer – he advised Kirat to go to her local police station immediately. 

Why? Because he said a serious crime may have been committed. One that she needed to report as soon as possible. 

So when Kirat went to Hounslow police station that night she thought it would be the first step towards holding Simran to account. 

Except, it didn’t work out like that. At all. 

Kirat Assi: We’re in that sort of, kind of a police cubicle thing. And I was explaining, and I said, I’d been asked by Brighton police station to come in, um, explained like an overview of what had happened. And he said, you know, I can’t see what crime has been committed against you, you know, you’ve just been duped… kind of thing. And I was like but this has happened, X amount has happened, I’ve been forced to do this. I was being bullied. I was being intimidated. I was scared for myself. I was made to stop talking to people, you know, lots of things. I explained all of those things and it was just a case of… but the guys in Brighton have had their identity stolen. They need to report it in Brighton. 

Alexi Mostrous: So you were being told that the victims were in Brighton, the victims were the real Bobby?

Kirat Assi: Yeah. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: There are 43 police forces in England and Wales. In fact, each region of the country has its own independent force. 

And they are supposed to collaborate but often this just doesn’t happen. What’s the phrase… sometimes the left hand doesn’t know what the right hand is doing?

When Kirat went to her local police station that night, on the evening of Simran’s confession, I think that’s what happened to her.

Hounslow police told her: Bobby is the victim. He’s the one whose identity has been stolen. 

Whereas Brighton police, they were saying… no, no: Simran is in London so London is where the case should be looked at.

It was a frustrating situation and it was only going to get worse.

Kirat Assi: I was slowly beginning to realise how crazy and fantastic the story was and that people just weren’t getting it. What was for me so straightforward because it happened to me – I know it happened. It was suddenly creeping in that people were going, this is really crazy. This is really stupid. This is really weird. This is… what? Could this happen? It’s like, too fantastic. 

Alexi Mostrous: And that their default position was not to engage with it.

Kirat Assi: Yeah. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: After her first meeting, Kirat went back to Hounslow police station a few days later. 

Kirat Assi: First thing that had happened is I’d walked in and we’d had the officer behind the desk… had called my aunty to the cubicle and he’d said, oh, is she in the right frame of mind? Did she… is she a bit doolally? Basically. 

Alexi Mostrous: The officer suggested that you might have mental health problems?

Kirat Assi: Yeah. That I might not be right in the head. And I could hear him from where I was standing. 

Alexi Mostrous: How did that make you feel? 

Kirat Assi: I actually left the police station. I walked out of that police station waiting room, and I had a panic attack. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: Kirat persisted. 

That week, she found herself in and out of Hounslow. 

It was basically pot luck whether she was listened to or not. But there was one officer – a female officer – who seemed to get it. 

Kirat Assi: She was very, you know, she was really good. She was really empathetic. She listened. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: This seemed like progress. The police seemed to say they’d investigate.

But then things went quiet. And it was only in October 2018 – almost five months after she’d first reported it – that Hounslow called Kirat in again to give a video interview. 

And let’s just say… it doesn’t go great. 

Kirat is interviewed for a few hours. But the police officer doing the interview – they have no knowledge of the case. 

So Kirat has to start from the very beginning, explaining how Bobby first made contact all the way back in 2010. 

And that means she only gets about 20 minutes to go through the worst period. The three years between 2015 and 2018, when she was in a controlling relationship with Bobby.

And when I heard that I was thinking: it took me about a week to get my head around Kirat’s story – and that was with the benefit of legal documents. 

So 20 minutes or so… that’s barely scratching the surface.

Alexi Mostrous: So you felt when you back in that almost the most important section of the story, certainly from the police’s perspective, that was rushed? 

Kirat Assi: Absolutely. And I said it at the end, and I was like so what’s going to happen next then? And she said, well, we need to take your phone, which had other evidence on it and she said, we’ll probably bring Simran in for questioning. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: The police did take Kirat’s phone for evidence. But they didn’t bring Simran in for questioning. 

So they didn’t get any insight from her about why – or how – she did it. And now, three years later, I’m struggling with exactly those same questions. 

And one of the most frustrating things of this whole story – which isn’t being answered by anyone – is exactly how Simran pulled off the scam.  

And it’s something I’ve thought a lot about. And I know it’s something that many of you have questioned. 

Like – how did she keep track of all these different characters and the individual lives she was impersonating? 

Sometimes I imagine a secret drawer in her desk filled with ring binders. 

Or a third computer screen alongside her other two at the bank just used to send fake Facebook updates. And multiple phones and phone numbers – because how else do you run a WhatsApp group with so many fake people?

But even then – how did she do the voices? The Skype calls? 

Because it wasn’t just Bobby, remember. 

By the end, Kirat was talking to four main characters – men and women – who were all Simran.

So what are we saying? Was she a ventriloquist now as well? 

I could pretend to have the answers to these questions, but I don’t. Like you, and at least at this stage, I can only speculate. 

Kirat has been able to offer some insight – like when Bobby told her that his voice had been damaged in hospital – and that was why it might have been a bit higher pitched. But even that feels like only part of the puzzle. 


After her October meeting with Hounslow police things seemed to stall. 

And every time Kirat phoned up the station they’d fob her off.

Maybe her story was too difficult. Maybe there was too much social media evidence. Police forces in Britain are notoriously bad at dealing with digital evidence. 

Even though – in this case – Kirat tried to make it easy for them. At this stage, a family member was helping Kirat to compile evidence. 

Kirat Assi: When we found specific evidence of certain things, we would just screenshot it, attach it in the title, put a date, put whatever… brief descriptions so that everything was really easy for them. I mean literally, she, and she was saying to me, you shouldn’t be doing this, this should be them doing this. It’s like, you’re on trial here. She kept saying, why does it feel like you’re on trial? 

Alexi Mostrous: And how did you know, how did you know at this point, and in fact, in general, that the police hadn’t called in Simran? We’re kind of making a very educated assumption that she hasn’t been questioned by the police, but we don’t know that for sure?

Kirat Assi: Oh, no, we know. I know the police haven’t called her in. They’ve confirmed that they haven’t. So. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: This period – in 2018 – feels like a low point for Kirat. 

She’s doing everything she can to hold Simran to account and yet, her claims just weren’t being taken seriously. 

And there was an added cruelty too. 

Around this time, Kirat hears on the grapevine that Simran has got a big promotion at work. 

And it turns out that was true – I’ve seen the press release. Simran was made a vice-president at a British bank. You’d know the name. And it was a pretty big deal. 

Plus her Twitter feed, it shows that she’s recently gone on holiday to a wellness retreat. 

Her posts, they mention yoga – they have pictures of palm trees and sunsets. 

And at the same time as this was happening – Kirat was at home struggling with the police. She was having nightmares. She couldn’t sleep.

And worst of all she started getting anonymous texts and phone calls from an unknown number. 

I’ve seen these messages – they are pretty sexually explicit. Pretty nasty. 

And when Kirat phoned the number she heard Indian music in the background. The same sort of music she heard in the background when she was speaking to Simran’s characters.

Was this Simran? 

We’ve got no way of knowing for sure. But it made Kirat feel like that this whole trauma… was far from over. 

Kirat Assi: I’d come to that realisation that everywhere I turned doors were shutting. And as I’d worked through the reasoning why it all ended up with Simran… why was it difficult for me to get a job right now? Because of this, because of that, because of whatever, because of what Simran did. Why am I not in a relationship right now? And is it going to be easy for me to be in one? All comes back to Simran. You know, am I ever going to be a mum? Maybe, maybe not. Why? You know, I can’t say all, ’cause you never know what’s written in your future, but that probability is reduced. And reason why? High percentage of it is Simran. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: At this point I started thinking – maybe one of the obstacles Kirat was bumping up against was the word “catfishing” itself. 

After all, to many people it sounds like an online joke… maybe someone pretending to be someone else on Tinder to get a date. 

More, I don’t know, embarrassing than genuinely harmful?

And perhaps this is what the police were thinking. That Kirat was the victim of a prank that got out of hand. Serious, yes – but not a police matter. 

And if this was the police’s view – it wouldn’t actually be that unreasonable. 

Because catfishing itself is not a criminal offence in Britain. 

It seems extraordinary to me but you can deceive someone online for years without any criminal consequences. 

So however frustrated Kirat was getting with the police, maybe – legally speaking – they had a point.

Charlotte Proudman: But this case, oh my god, where to start, what the hell has been going on? Is this really true? 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: Charlotte Proudman is a barrister. She specialises in gender based violence and coercive control. 

Charlotte Proudman: I’m gonna have to have my notes up for this, and normally I don’t have my notes up when I do interviews but this one is just so extraordinary and there’s so much going on.

Alexi Mostrous: Yeah, there is so much going on.

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: I just couldn’t believe that someone could do what Simran did and get away with it. 

So I asked Charlotte: did Simran do anything, in her opinion, to Kirat which crossed the line into criminality? 

Alexi Mostrous: And it just makes me think maybe, you know, maybe there is a criminal case here? 

Charlotte Proudman: Yeah. I think that there is, I think looking at this, hearing the evidence that’s available to support it, it does fit within the legislation and within the guidance on coercive and controlling behaviour. So certainly there seems to be a public interest in prosecuting this because this type of behavior should never be tolerated. And there seems to be evidence available to support a prosecution. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: What Charlotte was telling me was that Hounslow police actually had ample grounds to investigate Simran Bhogal.

Not for catfishing perhaps – but for another criminal offence altogether. 

Coercive and controlling behaviour has been illegal in England and Wales since 2016.

And what Charlotte  was telling me was that Simran may not have behaved illegally by pretending to be Bobby. But she may well have crossed a line when she used Bobby to control Kirat to the extent that she did. 

Charlotte Proudman: In my view, it fits squarely within the current legislation.

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: Forcing her to quit her job; to quit her friends; to stay at home waiting for Bobby’s call. 

Charlotte Proudman: Deactivating Facebook to prove she’s not flirting with other people… he is prone to mood swings, blames her for this… She turns down a promotion because of the stress of dealing with Bobby… I mean, the fact that she had to be signed off with stress, losing weight, just use six stone, size, six to eight, losing her hair…

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: Charlotte told me that coercive control might not be the only law that Simran might have breached. 

She may also have broken laws preventing harassment, sexual offences and something called the malicious communications act.

And the police response to all this? Given all these potential breaches?

Was it justified in all the circumstances? According to Charlotte – that’s a big fat no.

Charlotte Proudman: Yeah, I think it was quite interesting to see that the police had asked her whether she, or in fact, not even asked her but asked an aunt whether she was suffering from psychiatric or mental health conditions, that was their response. So again, in victim blaming, suggesting that she is somehow complicit in this deception and web of lies because she’s mentally ill rather than recognising that actually this could potentially happen to anybody.

And I think the police, either finding it too difficult to get involved with, or thinking that it’s a family incident, that it’s a family affair. Or as it’s referred to, it’s just a domestic, no crime committed here. Something that I see quite a lot of on police records. 

Alexi Mostrous: What, what, what do you think should have happened? 

Charlotte Proudman: Well, I think that they should have carefully looked at whether the offense of coercive and controlling behavior was made out. I mean, we’ve been through the different limbs of coercive and controlling behavior, and I think arguably it is made out on the evidence that’s available.

And I questioned whether the police actually looked at all of that evidence. Um, and I question what evidence that they receive from Simran.    


[Clip: door opening]

Alexi Mostrous: Hey, Amrit how you doing? 

Amri Maan: Good morning. Nice to see you. And likewise, how are you?

Alexi Mostrous: Good, good.

Amri Maan: You look tired like me.

Alexi Mostrous: Yeah well, it’s been a busy week.

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: In October 2018 – Kirat didn’t have access to Charlotte, like I did. 

In fact – months after she reported Simran to the police – it looked like she was running out of options  

Despite handing the police evidence that Simran had coercively controlled Kirat through Bobby the investigation was going nowhere. 

And then, came a chance meeting with a guy called Amrit Maan. 

Amrit Maan: So welcome to my humble abode.

Alexi Mostrous: Ahh the Punjab. 

Amrit Maan: The Punjab Covent garden, all roads lead to the Punjab. Come on in.

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: Imagine if a fairy godmother owned an Indian restaurant… and you’d come quite close to Amrit. 

Alexi Mostrous: This is where the story all started for me. This is where I first met you. And I first met Kirat. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: He’s the fourth generation owner of The Punjab – an institution of a restaurant in the middle of Covent garden, in central London. 

And he’s the type of person, when you meet once – you don’t forget. Always smiling; always wearing a suit.

Amrit Maan: And we’ve been here since the early 1950s. We’ve got a varied, eclectic photo collection…  

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: The walls of the restaurant are lined with pictures of celebrities who have eaten his food.

Amrit Maan: And this gentleman over here… he was a freedom fighter, a very close friend of my great-grandfather, the founder of The Punjab… 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: This place is like a character itself. And everyone in this story has been here at one time or another. The Punjab is where I first met Kirat and our initial conversation was fuelled by king prawn bhuna and chicken madras. 

Amrit Maan: You have some drive!

Alexi Mostrous: You had some good food to keep us going!

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: And it was also where Kirat first met Amrit in Autumn of 2018, around five months after Simran’s confession.

And she didn’t know then that he would help her revitalise her case. 

I’ve come here to hear how that happened. And we’re sitting in a private room upstairs, a place Amrit calls his war room. 

There’s a dumbwaiter that runs directly up from the restaurant below – you’ll hear it clunk when it arrives. 

Alexi Mostrous: Well shall we just start with the start basically which is, how did you first meet Kirat? 

Amrit Maan: Yeah, it was, um, 3rd of October, 2018. Uh, she walked in, she had a meeting with me because I had signed up to this crazy television advertising for an international channel….

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: Kirat had turned up to sort out the terms of a business contract.

She was working for an Punjabi TV channel and they were planning to showcase Amrit’s restaurant. 

Amrit Maan: But I picked something up and I don’t know what it was. I remember. And I was intrigued. Um, Shakespeare always says that the eyes are a window to the soul and I picked something up and I looked, I looked in her eyes. I knew something was not right. I knew she was suffering in silence.

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: Despite not mentioning her case, Amrit felt that there was something not quite right. 

Amrit Maan: Towards the end of the meeting, she mentioned, she dropped this, this nugget golden nugget that she had a legal case… I’m talking to the police, it’s not going anywhere… 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: Amrit thought he could help because he isn’t just the owner of The Punjab.

Amrit Maan: She had no clue that in my spare time, I am a pro bono solicitor and I work with victims of crime.

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: A few weeks later, and Kirat was back in the restaurant.

And this time, she revealed a little bit more about what happened. 

Amrit Maan: And it was all about listening. It took me up to about three months for the penny to drop, to understand fully the, the magnitude of the whole Bobby, the fake Bobby staff. But from day one, from that, that second meeting in person, I believed her. 

Alexi Mostrous: Did she give you the witness statement at this point around this point, that she had prepared or?

Amrit Maan: No, hat that came later.

Alexi Mostrous: that came later did it?

Amrit Maan: That came later. So this was just, you didn’t even have a written document to rely on.

Amrit Maan: No, it was just my mind, my fragile mind. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: Even with Amrit’s legal background – it took him a long time to appreciate the full extent of what had happened.

But as soon as he did, he became Kirat’s supporter. Finally, someone she could rely on to fight her corner

Amrit Mann: I never get emotionally connected to my clients, but this one, I don’t know my, my blood boiled and I put it down to my mom’s lineage, my mom’s blood. Um, we get quite emotional and I felt angry. I felt this is not right. This is appalling. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: So with that, Kirat had the first member of what would later become a team around her. 

And Team Kirat wasn’t going to settle for the police doing nothing. 

Amrit Maan: And I said, let’s go, let’s go to the police station. Let’s go and find out what’s the status. So turn up, um, suited and booted, with Kirat and suddenly no one wants to come down. No one wants to see us. They took offense. Why was there a lawyer there? And the investigating officer was doing her job, we just wanted to just ask her, where are we? How can we assist? How can we support? How can we, you know, help with the investigation? But it was clear they wanted us to go away. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: While Amrit was putting pressure on the police to give Kirat an update, they also decided to go down another route. 

If Simran dodged criminal liability, they thought, maybe she could be held accountable in the civil courts. 

Although Amrit was a solicitor – he acted more as an informal advisor to Kirat. 

So Kirat looked for another lawyer – a specialist  – and she found him, just by googling something like “catfishing lawyer” and seeing what turned up. 

And the lawyer she found – a guy called Yair Cohen – is actually someone I know from way back. He’s a specialist in online harms and internet stalking. 

And together – Amrit, Yair and Kirat – they drafted something to Simran called a letter before action.

Which is basically a letter telling someone that you’re thinking of taking legal action against them. 

Amrit Maan: So we eventually got to a point where we were ready, ready to serve,

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: Kirat’s letter accused Simran of misusing her private information, harassment and breach of data protection laws. 

Alexi Mostrous: So when you were going for the civil case, um, what were your kind of objectives? What did you want to get out of it? 

Kirat Assi: Reputation. That’s it. 

Alexi Mostrous: And that would involve what you’d hope would be a public apology?

Kirat Assi: Yes. I mean, I thought it would happen really quickly. I thought she’d be just scared by the legal letter and do what she needed to do… but it wasn’t the case.

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: When she got the letter before action, Simran didn’t buckle. 

In fact, she did the opposite. 

She doubled down. She was going to fight. 

And this is very interesting – in terms of Simran’s psychology, something that feels like a puzzle that we are constantly trying to piece together. 

Because, I would have thought the same as Kirat. 

Here’s someone who has already confessed, who had a good job, who wants to get on with their life. Wouldn’t someone in that position cave to a legal threat?

Wouldn’t they just want it all to go away? 

But once again – Simran defied expectations. 

Amrit Maan: Simran’s lawyers, they came back with this kind of, um, allegation that Simran was young and Harkhirat was an adult, Simran was a child, and Kirat went ballistic. She was on the phone. It was awful to be accused of that was awful. And again I think… 

Alexi Mostrous: I think the lawyers even used the word grooming?

Amrit Maan:Yeah, yeah, 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: Simran called in her lawyers

And they argued something pretty extraordinary. 

Despite her double confession –  once to Bobby and then to Kirat, the lawyers argued that Simran was the real victim. 

They accused Kirat, as an adult, of “grooming” her younger cousin while she was still at school.

In fact I know exactly what they said because I’ve seen the letter: 

“It is our case that your client groomed our client to play her part in this elaborate but ludicrous interaction. We would agree that there has been extensive manipulation but it is the Defendant’s case that has been carried out by your adult client.” 

Now – I should say – I’ve seen cases where lawyers go off on one… acting aggressively to try and make the claimant back down. But ultimately, a legal response reflects the position of the client. 

So when I quote from these legal letters – I have to presume that they broadly represent Simran’s own view. And Simran’s lawyers also claimed that Kirat had always known that Simran was “Bobby”.

And why should Kirat allow that situation to continue? Well Simran’s lawyers said – and again – I’m quoting.

Because Kirat “received attention and excitement in what otherwise may have been a life absent these ingredients.”

And there’s more, they threatened to go public with their allegation if Kirat pursued the case further. I mean that’s seriously harsh. To me, the letters are very clearly victim blaming. 

Basically – a lawyerly way of saying: you asked for it. You knew what was happening all the time. 

When Kirat received these letters last year, it was a massive blow. 

And if I was her – honestly? I think I’d be pretty close to giving up. 

Because despite Amrit and Yair’s help – Kirat seemed no closer to holding Simran to account. 

Almost two years after the confession, the police investigation was going nowhere and Simran had come out all guns blazing. 

Kirat Assi: Yeah. So it’s outrageous. So I just thought that’s so low and so disgusting of you, you’ve already confessed. 

Alexi Mostrous: So the tactics reinforced your determination? 

Kirat Assi: It just told me how low she was as a person. How low she was willing to go to scare me and intimidate me into silence. So I just stuck to my guns. It was terrifying but I’m just, you know something, the truth is the truth. 

Alexi Mostrous, narrating: Next week on Sweet Bobby – the final episode. 

Kirat makes a breakthrough in her case – but Simran has one more card to play. And I ask Bobby if he’ll do something he’s never done before – meet Kirat for the first time since the truth came out. 

While making the series, Simran’s lawyers gave us this statement on her behalf:

“This matter concerns a family dispute over events that began over a decade ago, when I was a schoolgirl. As far as I am concerned, this is a private family matter that has been resolved, and I strongly object to the numerous unfounded and seriously defamatory accusations that have been made about me, as well as details of private matters that have been shared with the media.”

If you’re enjoying this series, we’d love you to come along to a digital Thinkin we’re hosting about Sweet Bobby. If you’re new to Tortoise, a ThinkIn is an open discussion we have with our members – it’s a chance to ask questions, air theories and discuss the wider issues. If you’re a fan of Sweet Bobby there might even be some guests you recognise… To sign up and find out more details just visit the Tortoise website. 

And remember: if you’ve been catfished yourself and want to get in touch – then please email us, in confidence, at sweetbobby@tortoisemedia.com


Gary Marshall – Producer
Claudia Williams – Assistant producer and additional reporting
Karla Patella – Sound design
Basia Cummings – Executive producer

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Episode 6: Motive

Episode 6: Motive

In the final episode of Sweet Bobby, Kirat’s case against the catfisher takes an unexpected turn. As Alexi is putting the finishing touches to the series, he gets a phone call that changes everything

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