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Sweet Bobby resources

Sweet Bobby resources

How to get in touch if you have a story, and where to look if you have been affected by the Sweet Bobby series

Sweet Bobby is a live investigation that is still unfolding. If you have a relevant story that you think we should know about then please do get in touch. You can send us an email at sweetbobby@tortoisemedia.com

All information will be carefully handled and is confidential unless you consent to publication. Please make sure to include your name and the best way to contact you in your email. 

If you have been affected by any of the themes discussed in the Sweet Bobby series, there is help and further information available. 


  • The Cyber Helpline has a dedicated page relating to catfishing or digital romance fraud. If you think you might be at risk, there are tips for recognising a scam and also suggestions for how to deal with it. 
  • You can report romance fraud – which usually involves sending money – to Action Fraud. You should also consider contacting your bank. 
  • If you have been a victim of catfishing and need emotional support, then you can call the Samaritans. Their free phone line is available 24 hours a day. You can also call Victim Support or Victim Support Scotland

Coercive control

  • Rise has detailed information about what digital abuse might involve and what to do if you think you are at risk.  
  • You can find information about online domestic abuse and tips to stay safe on the Women’s Aid website. You can also use their Live Chat function, speak with other survivors on their forum, or send an email to a support worker. 
  • You can also call Refuge’s Men’s Advice Line on 0808 801 0327 for specialist support.
  • If you are worried about the safety of yourself or a loved one you can contact the national domestic abuse helpline. It’s free and available 24 hours a day.

If you believe or suspect that you have been the victim of a crime then you should always contact the police on 101. Call 999 if you believe you are in danger. 

These contact details refer specifically to the UK, but there will be similar services available wherever you are based.